Shock Talk – Let’s talk dirty tonight!!

Many couples use dirty talk to spice up sex. Talking dirty is an acquired art, like dancing or writing poetry. It seems intimidating, but anyone can learn how to do it. 

Here are some great tips to steer you in the right path.

Watch what you say (in other words, try to stay on the safe side until you know your partner can handle it). Tone the level of profanity until you know your partner is comfortable with it. There’s a fine line between seductive and sleazy. Try to use good judgments when revealing your intimate thought.

Start by using descriptive and positive talk. Compliment a particular part of your lover’s body that you find irresistible. “You have an awesome butt. It’s so nice and round. Just the way I like it.”, “You’re legs are super sexy. Come here and let me touch you.”, “I love the taste of your (name part or fluid)!.”

Be sincere. The trick is to pull off dirty talk without sounding cheesy. Look your partner in the eyes. Hold their hand. Say it like you mean it. You should only go as far as you feel comfortable. It shouldn’t seem rehearsed. When your partner does something that makes you feel phenomenal tell them. “Oh baby, that feels soooo Good!”, “You’re getting me so horny (hard).”, “That move drives me craazzy!”, “I want you so bad!”

Use dirty talk to coach or cheer your partner on. If you want your partner to buck or thrust harder, demand it! “Harder! Harder! Do me harder!”, “Faster, faster! Quick baby, I need it!” Additionally, if you’re enjoying the way your partner is touching a particular area, cheer them on by say, “Oh yeah, do it right there! Honey, that’s your spot!” or “Nobody can do that like you!”

Practice, practice, practice. Although you don’t want dirty pillow talk to sound rehearse or routine. Instead, practice being comfortable talking about your fantasy with your partner. Tell your partner what you want him/her to do to you. And encourage them you reveal their fantasies.