WHAT ROLE DOES A SEXUAL FANTASY PLAY IN YOUR LOVE LIFE?

Do you ever dream about playing out a fantasy in the bedroom with your lover?  Although it is wonderful to dream up fantasies you would love to have happen to you in real life,  sometimes they remain just that, a fantasy.  What if your partner has a sexual fantasy and he/she is too embarrassed to tell you?  Later you found out that they had in fact had a fantasy but were afraid to bro ch the subject. Wouldn’t you of wanted them to share their fantasy with you?  If they do want to share their fantasy with you, listen to what they have to say, you never know, you may respond to their fantasy with a new found excitement for the bedroom.  How often were you afraid or too shy to try something new with your lover because you  feared you may be rejected?  Wouldn’t it be wonderful to get over your shyness or fear and spice up things in the bedroom, bathroom or even out in public?  Now don’t you think it’s about time you shared yours?

 

I have some tips that may help your fantasies come true.  First, consider what he/she may respond to better when introducing new things. ( You should know what they may like or may not like.)  I suggest you take some time, get some paper and a pen and write down your fantasy in a short story, maybe a paragraph or two.  If your fantasy consists of items in the role of love making other than you and your lover, such as motion lotions, lubricants, sex toys, sexy lingerie etc., you may want to jot down some of these things.  You also want to think about how you will bring up the whole fantasy sharing idea with your lover.  Maybe plan a romantic evening in, just the two of you, and maybe some mood settings such as candles, bubble baths or anything you know will put your lover in the mood. Then get a conversation started about sex and nonchalantly ask them if they would object to maybe trying something or somethings new.  Tell them you have a fantasy and would love to share it with him/her.  Ask them if maybe they have a fantasy they would like to share with you.  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your fantasy was just about the same as your lovers?  I’m sure the clothes would be flying all over the bedroom ALOT more.  You should know your lover enough to know what he/she may be receptive to.  If they are receptive, remember start slow and introduce things ( if you can ) one at a time or however you may want your fantasy to play out.

 

Don’t go wild and think you can have a room full of love making sex toys or other fantasy items, that may overwhelm your partner or in turn, totally turn your partner off.  You really want to start slow by introducing new things, techniques, one thing at a time, and if he/she finds your new found sex life exciting, then you know you have done the right thing, bringing your fantasies to life.   

 

P.S.  I have shared fantasies with my lover and my love life has never been better!!!