When you want her to know she fills your soul, makes you a better person and that words fall short in expressing your undying love, the overwhelming feelings can sometimes leave you without any good ideas for your Valentine’s Day. But there is hope in delivering a satisfying, personal and romantic Valentine’s Day tailored just for her if you plan ahead and do it all one step at a time.

Step One: Determining Her Wants and Needs
The first step to creating an amazing Valentine’s Day for the special woman in your life, is knowing who she is and what she needs. Does she prefer to be active on a day off? Is she more relaxed and prefers to lounge? What kinds of things does she need in her life right now? A pedicure? A massage? A new movie that was just released on DVD? That necklace she’s been talking about?
You should even try to think of things she may have told you about, like where she used to go to get away when she needed to be alone.

Step Two: Combining Needs with Location
Now that you’ve taken some time to really think about who your lover is and what she needs this Valentine’s Day, choosing a location shouldn’t be so difficult.

If she’s active and used to love getting away out in the country, take her to the zoo for a quiet picnic for two and some animal sight seeing. If she prefers to lounge around and has fond memories of cuddling by the fireplace, set up a love nest with blankets, pillows and mattress pillows in the loft or living room. Consider a portable DVD player as a gift to make your hide-away evening amazing with some romantic films and a backpack full of snacks, sandwiches and of course, chocolate.

Maybe your partner is a very busy woman, however, and has expressed a strong desire to be caught up in life. These women usually work very hard while trying to juggle a home and children. For this kind of Valentine’s Day need, I would suggest taking Valentine’s Day off, seeing the lovely woman off to work, hiring a housekeeper and asking grandma to come get the kids. This leaves you with ample time to plan reservations at an elegant reastuarant or an indoor picnic near the fireplace or television. You could also have a hot bath ready for the moment she steps in the door, complete with red rose petals floating gently atop the water, bath oil already mixed in and lovely, aromatic candles lit about the clean bathroom. This is an excellent precursor to a simplistic but tasty dinner like the ones listed at the end of this article.

For those men who love the woman with a wild or unpredictable streak, choosing a location may be more difficult. Which is why you are the kind of man who shouldn’t make reservations too far in advance. Choose two locations which don’t require too much planning. One of these locations should be a relatively active location like an outdoor community concert performed in her taste of music. Maybe she likes more excitement like local off-roading shows or carnivals and theme parks, which would also make a private meal for two in the parking lot a special treat. The right picnic basket and a blanket could turn your tailgate into a memorable experience. The other location should be a relaxing location like a popular Garden or park. Taking along a specialized picnic basket with wine will warm her heart and likely take her desires home after the meal.

Step Three: Executing the Plan With Creativity
You shouldn’t be surprised that the nurturing woman you love and adore appreciates silly and creative gestures in almost any form. While men are physical and literal creatures who usually keep balance in the family, women are emotional, sensitive and caring, which promotes happiness, positive behavior and other nurturing qualities in the home. So even if you feel a little strange going to the craft store for card stock and stickers, know that she will melt and believe that you’ve begun to understand her.

A great example of adding creativity to your Valentine’s Day would be placing hand written notes inside each pocket of a beautiful Surprise gift basket. Not only will she enjoy ruffling through to the goodies inside, but the little notes will be like an extra kiss on the cheek every time she reads one. Simple phrases like “You make me melt” or “This day should last forever” and “I love you more with time” should be superb.

Another way to get creative, especially for an outdoor event that leaves you with little privacy until retirement, is finding sneaky ways to give her jewelry, notes, candy or other small gifts, including gift cards. There are several ways to do this including buying her an oversized zip-up jacket just to keep her warm while you’re outdoors. Slip notes, jewelry and candy into the pockets and watch as she discovers them while warming her hands!

You could also try buying her a small, inexpensive jewelry box, placing little notes and jewelry inside and then wrapping it. She’ll probably like the jewelry box and then be surprised to find there’s more to the gift. If you plan ahead and have reservations for a restaurant or a fun place like Medieval Times, you can request that they make an announcement for you or bring her gift to her with her meal. Be cautious, however. Women who don’t like attention won’t find this flattering.

Once you’ve decided on how to be creative and have a location, all you need to worry about is being relaxed and getting her there. A stressed out guy is the last thing a woman wants on Valentine’s Day so be sure to be her rock and get her through this cherished holiday.

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Many couples use dirty talk to spice up sex. Talking dirty is an acquired art, like dancing or writing poetry. It seems intimidating, but anyone can learn how to do it. 

Here are some great tips to steer you in the right path.

Watch what you say (in other words, try to stay on the safe side until you know your partner can handle it). Tone the level of profanity until you know your partner is comfortable with it. There’s a fine line between seductive and sleazy. Try to use good judgments when revealing your intimate thought.

Start by using descriptive and positive talk. Compliment a particular part of your lover’s body that you find irresistible. “You have an awesome butt. It’s so nice and round. Just the way I like it.”, “You’re legs are super sexy. Come here and let me touch you.”, “I love the taste of your (name part or fluid)!.”

Be sincere. The trick is to pull off dirty talk without sounding cheesy. Look your partner in the eyes. Hold their hand. Say it like you mean it. You should only go as far as you feel comfortable. It shouldn’t seem rehearsed. When your partner does something that makes you feel phenomenal tell them. “Oh baby, that feels soooo Good!”, “You’re getting me so horny (hard).”, “That move drives me craazzy!”, “I want you so bad!”

Use dirty talk to coach or cheer your partner on. If you want your partner to buck or thrust harder, demand it! “Harder! Harder! Do me harder!”, “Faster, faster! Quick baby, I need it!” Additionally, if you’re enjoying the way your partner is touching a particular area, cheer them on by say, “Oh yeah, do it right there! Honey, that’s your spot!” or “Nobody can do that like you!”

Practice, practice, practice. Although you don’t want dirty pillow talk to sound rehearse or routine. Instead, practice being comfortable talking about your fantasy with your partner. Tell your partner what you want him/her to do to you. And encourage them you reveal their fantasies.

It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that men love to play golf. Personally, I’ve never really understood the entire draw towards the game. Though I do enjoy miniature golf I cannot fathom walking for three hours chasing a ball. So I thought to myself, instead of three hours of golf, what about three hours of sex? Now that is a great idea!!!Well what you need for this game is a small putting green (your carpet) a cup for the hole (you can pick up at any big box department store or any golf store), his putter, and a couple of golf balls. Now what you must do is decide on nine things that he or even you may want to do for sexual favors. Some things can include:

Select nine things and place them in an envelope and label them Hole 1 to Hole 9. Hidden within these nine envelopes will be nine different desires to make his or your dreams come true.Now you must create nine different holes within the house. You have control over where you want to put the ball or what obstacles you want to put in the way. Yes it is miniature golf, but in your house.

What is left to do is set up the golf green and place two putting lines. You can use some masking tape and set up 9 lines at each of the different holes. Also place one line one foot in front of the other line so you get the advantage of putting from closer. Of course we want to give you the upper advantage.

As he walks in that evening the two of you will be putting for sex. Explain to him the game and once you start, feel free to distract him in any way possible. You can take off a piece of his or your clothing, blindfold him with your bra, or even giving him oral sex. By the time he gets to the final hole the two of you will be naked which is perfect for him. Want to change the game a little bit? Try selecting 9 different positions instead of foreplay scenes. Now set up the 9 holes. If he gets a hole in one, he gets the envelope, if he doesn’t, he gets nothing. But be easy on him and make it simple, you want to have fun too. Be sure to show him what the position is before he putts so he will be eager to get the hole in one.

There can be no denying that when it comes to sex, nothing beats the real thing. However, one cannot also ignore the popularity of several sex toys and the continued introduction of newer models to satisfy a demanding market. This market is growing and as such we should pay attention to how people integrate these items into their sex lives. You should be aware that sex toys can also be used to enhance your sex lives and bring you and your partner to a new level of closeness and intimacy.

Loosely defined, sex toys are devices meant to pleasure the user sexually, usually used on erogenous parts of the body.

Probably the most common and most popular sex toy is the vibrator. Majority of its users are women, and most admitted to curiosity as the primary reason for initial usage. Though some prefer to use vibrators in private, it can also be used with a partner. For heterosexuals, vibrators can be handy when the guy comes off too fast. It can also be a part of your foreplay, to arouse you and your partner to greater heights. In instances when the vibrator is shared, as in lesbian couples, slip a condom over it before inserting into the vagina and put a new one before handing it to your partner. Make sure that it is also properly cleaned before storing.

Dildos are also quite popular among the ladies, as they mimic the shape, texture, and size of a real penis, though they require considerably more effort than battery operated or rechargeable vibrators. Again, it would do some good if you slip on a condom over it before using, especially among lesbians who use it to pleasure their partners. And even if you are using it alone to masturbate, a condom would still be advisable unless you are pretty sure your storage place is totally devoid of germs and other irritants.

There is also one recently introduced product that is fast gaining a loyal following, the vibrating ring. It is a device that is slipped on the penis, and over a condom, and is used to enhance the pleasure of both partners. The vibrating ring has a small battery within the rubber casing. Women who have tried it claim of achieving multiple orgasms through the use of vibrating ring. And the best part of this is that men can take part of the action, too. A vibrating ring is known to extend the erection of the penis. It also has bumps and raised surfaces for heightened pleasure. And because it is stretchable, a vibrating ring can accommodate any size of penis. Vibrating ring users also revel in the fact that this device is portable, easily concealed and thus can be carried almost anywhere.

Though the use of sex toys to achieve self-gratification is an effective method of birth control, don’t think it will turn you away from the pleasure of real, consensual sex. With the availability of contraceptives and protective devices such as condoms and pill, sex is and will always remain to be life’s most enjoyable activity. However, there is still no denying that dildos, vibrators, and the vibrating ring afford much pleasure to their users and will continue to enjoy great popularity.

Many people who are sexually frustrated often times consider ending their relationships. If you really love your husband or wife, you should not leave solely based on your sexual frustrations. Try to spice things up in the bedroom by doing a little experimenting. This has proven to be successful for many couples.

As wonderful as it is to hear that experimenting in the bedroom can help improve your sex life, there are always a few things you have to take into consideration before you start experimenting in the bedroom. Let’s look at a few of the pros and cons.

One of the pros to experimenting in bed is that you break the boredom. Change is a good thing. Change is important for the survival of many relationships. If you sex as a chore then you need to make some changes immediately.

Another pro to experimenting in bed is the improvement your sex life will experience. As I said before, change will do most relationships a lot of good. Experimenting in the bedroom can bring back the fire so to speak. It would be just like the first time you and your husband or wife made love. Hopefully that was a great experience.

The big pool of options you have when you experimenting in bed are another reason why experimenting in bed is a good idea. Unfortunately, when many men and women think of experimenting they go to the extreme and think it has to involve something like bringing another person into the bedroom. That is in no way what I mean when I say experiment in the bedroom.

I personally feel that bringing another person into your bedroom is very disrespectful. But if it works for you then hey, go for it. When I say experiment I mean trying new positions, role playing and things of that nature.

Now that I have listed a few of the good things about experimenting in the bedroom allow me to open your eyes to a few of the not so good things. One downside is that simply fact that you have to talk to your partner about this. Depending on how open and mature your relationship is this could be a very hard thing to do.

Your partner may automatically thing that they are unable to please you. Your partner might also feel very offended. So be very gentle in your approach.

Another downside is that your partner may resist your desire for change. They may not want to change anything. They may think your sex life is just fine. It is very important to get your point across please do not come across as being pushy. Your partner may just need a little time to adjust so give it to them. Sooner or later they just might come around.

Remember there is a lot of good that can come from experimenting but there is also a lot bad that could come from it as well. Talk to you your partner. Remember that the both of you need to keep an open mind. That’s the only way it can work.

by BillionDollarGirl, Jul 28, 2008

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The heat is on. You can literally feel it arcing between you. Whether it’s an enticing stranger you’ve just met or a special someone you’ve been slowly getting to know, you’re aware that now is the time to take your connection to the physical level. You can sense that she’s about ready to hop into bed and you damn well know that you are. So how do you make this first time with someone new a glorious moment you’ll both fondly remember rather than a nightmare you’d just as soon forget?

The first thing to zero in on is attitude. What exactly is it you want from this coming sexual encounter — a lusty one night romp or the beginning of a longstanding passionate relationship?

There certainly is nothing wrong with a one-night stand. There is something extremely exciting about sex with a stranger, with absolutely no strings attached. Many women feel this way, not only men. What we all have to be careful about is simply using the other person, treating them as an object only for our satisfaction.

No one likes being treated as an object. No one likes being used for someone else’s purpose. Men typically use women as sex objects. But just as often women treat men as success objects. What does it mean to treat a person as an object? It means you use that person to get what you want without particular regard to what happens to them or how they feel. At one extreme you would not even care if you actually cause harm. More frequently harm is not intended, but the well being of the person you are using is of little or no concern to you. What is of concern to you is to get what you want, which in this case is sex.

When you want sex and you do anything necessary to get it you are using the woman as a sex object. You may lie and otherwise be deceitful about what is really going on. You may pretend to care or be interested in her, but all you really want is to get laid. After you get what you want, you disappear and she never hears from you again. You don’t call. You may not even say hello on the street. You may feel contempt or disgust toward her for having had sex with you. But this is really a disguised form of self-contempt and self-hatred projected onto women. It is very unhealthy and in the long run will leave you alone, lonely, bitter and cynical. This is hardly a prescription for happiness.

Quick sex between consenting adults is not about using each other as an object, assuming both of you understand what is happening, and no deceit is involved. We call this scenario “no-strings sex.” With no-strings sex, both parties understand that it is not intended that you will ever see each other again. You do not exchange addresses or phones or personal histories. This situation ranks high on the list of most common fantasy for both men and women. The sex may be extremely hot and passionate. Both lovers may feel an extraordinary freedom and be willing to let go completely, dropping their usual sexual shyness and restraint. Often they will experiment with and allow themselves to enjoy what they would only dream of doing, but never allow themselves to do with someone they knew or were in an ongoing relationship with. They may experiment with things they did not even dream were possible.

There are only two rules for no-strings sex. They are very simple rules. Rule #1: Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. By “mutual consent” we mean that all aspects of your lovemaking are agreed to by both. You meet together on the sexual playing field as equals. No one gets physically hurt. When your partner says “I don’t want to do that” or “stop, that hurts” you must stop instantly. This is where “no” always means no. Rule #2: Don’t try to find her later!

The other type of first time encounter is with someone with whom you intend to have an ongoing relationship. We will call this scenario “relationship sex.” With relationship sex, it is understood by both of you that there may be an ongoing relationship after the sex. In fact, it would be quite normal for relationship sex to take place after you have been seeing each other for some time. In this scenario sex is not the start of the relationship, but a deepening of it. It is also quite common for a relationship to start with a sexual encounter. If the sex rocks the earth, or even if it is just pretty good, you may want to go further into relationship to see if you can connect on other important levels and make something work together in the longer run. This could evolve into living together or even marriage.

The Rules

The first rule for no-strings sex also applies to relationship sex. 1. Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. In addition to this rule there are a few others to keep in mind. 2. Great respect is mandatory. 3. Great caring is mandatory. 4. Open, honest communication is mandatory. 5. Gentleness is used as required, and roughness is used as mutually desired.

The Rules

1. Mutual consent for everything is mandatory. If you do not both enjoy it, what is the point? Remember, we are not using each other, we are loving each other. It is certainly all right for one partner to try things because the other person likes it even if they don’t, but this is a gift freely given and cannot be required.

2. Great respect is mandatory. Respect implies that you are aware of what the other person wants. You are willing to discover what they are capable of and what their sexual limits are. Your lover may have been injured psychologically or emotionally from past relationships. In fact this will almost certainly be the case, almost everyone has had their heart broken at least once. At the extreme, they may have experienced sexual abuse as a child. They may feel insecure about their sexuality. They may suffer from low self-esteem as a lover. They may be quite inexperienced in sexual technique. You must be extremely patient and ever so sensitive to the messages they send out about how fast to proceed, what to do and not do. Talk openly to establish the boundaries of your sexuality. Then experiment to push back the boundaries at a pace you can both find comfortable and safe.

3. Great caring is mandatory. Love is always given and received as a gift. It has been said that there is no such thing as bad sex, that sex without love can still be great sex, but sex with caring adds a warmth that connects two hearts and souls together. This is sex beyond technique. Sex with caring leaves the lovers filled. Sex with love leaves the lovers overflowing. It is caring that moves sex beyond the physical to allow for the creation of a deeper spiritual connection. Most men want an emotional connection and most would welcome a more spiritual experience of sex, but they are afraid and they just haven’t learned how to do it yet. Most women quite frankly, require the emotional connection as the price of entry.

4. Gentleness is used as required, and roughness is used as mutually desired. With mutual consent anything goes. But it is usually best to start out with more gentleness and progress to more roughness only as you learn that she wants it and likes it. Many women like a playful roughness as long as they feels truly safe. But if you have not established a high degree of trust with her, roughness prematurely can end what could have been an excellent long-term sexually passionate relationship.

5. Open, honest communication is mandatory. Talk about sex. Tell each other what you like and dislike. A good way to do this is to always offer choices A and B and ask which she likes best. This avoids the damage to fragile egos that young men are so prone to when they are learning about a new lover. If a man hears, “I don’t like that” it is very easy for him to have his feelings hurt and this may cause him to withdraw, or get angry, or react in some dysfunctional way. But if you give your women, for example, the choice between fondling her breasts this way, or this way, and ask which is best, you will not have your feelings hurt, and you will quickly learn what she really likes. This is how a lover becomes a great lover.

Techniques & Sources

If you need to have your imagination stimulated to know what to try, read any of several great lover’s manuals available in good bookstores everywhere. Then use the A-or-B technique to find out about your woman specifically. Here are a few titles to look for. You can order these from our web site if you can’t find them in your local bookstore.

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers by Margo Anand

How to Make Love All Night (And Drive a Woman Wild: Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) by Barbary Keesling

The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld

How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation by Helen Singer Kaplan

Once you’ve honestly considered your attitude you can move into the physical aspects of loving: like the setting, foreplay, afterplay and all the juicy bits in between. In the East there is a long tradition of the warrior lover — a man who has prepared himself physically, emotionally and mentally for the great and glorious battle between the sheets. This is not for dominating or defeating your lover but for skillfully bringing out the best in both of you so you can rise to new heights in your sexuality.

The idea of creating the right ambience for lovemaking may seem artificial or calculated, but there is an art to great loving and why not bring out the artist in yourself? A secluded place, candlelight, music, wine, food and clean sheets may sound like a trite scene from an old James Bond movie but they still hold true. Women love to be adored and creating a special place for loving shows that you care about what they want too.

It has become common knowledge that foreplay is very important in bringing a woman to sexual satisfaction. She takes longer to become aroused to the point where she can match you in intensity of desire. But what is also essential is afterplay. When you’ve come to a happy climax don’t just roll over and go to sleep or get up and go home. Even though your hormones may be telling you you’re finished, your lover won’t be. Take the time and make the effort to show your appreciation and caring through some tender cuddling and soft words or by sharing some food and conversation. You’ll benefit too from staying in love’s sweet afterglow.

Finally, it shouldn’t have to be said but it still does, always, always practice safe sex. Use condoms and dental dams until you are certain you’re in a completely monogamous relationship and you’ve both had AIDS tests. Remember good first time sex with someone means no one gets hurt, during loving or afterwards.

Published in Urban Male Magazine (UMM), Fall 1999

True — at least according to the results of one research group. In July 2003, the Australian Cancer Council Victoria polled the sexual habits of two groups of men, one healthy and the other prostate cancer patients. The results indicated that the more frequently a man ejaculates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely he is to develop prostate cancer. Why? Their theory was that ejaculation prevents the build up of carcinogens in the prostate gland.

This conclusion contradicted that of an earlier study, which suggested that heightened sexual activity can increase the risk of prostate cancer by as much as 40%. The Cancer Council group accounted for their divergent results in pointing out that their study was restricted to the effects of masturbation, whereas the preceding one incorporated intercourse, which carries with it the risk of potentially carcinogenic infection. So what can we conclude from these two studies? Perhaps only that we should take the results of both, and other published findings, with a grain of salt.

Courtesy: Donald Zimmer - http://www.askmen.com

You’ve heard about it, and may have seen them for yourself, but what is all the hype about Rabbit Vibrators? Well, it’s true that they are one of the best lines of vibrators out there.

One of the reasons why the Rabbit Vibrator, or the Rechargeable Jack Rabbit Vibrator is so popular is that they have so many incredible features. They can have the typical gyrating head, which means the head of the vibrating penis (they are usually molded into a penis shape) swirls around and massages deep inside you. This is an incredible feeling and many women fall in love with it as soon as they feel it!

Another great feature is the vibrating rabbit clitoral stimulating. The bunny’s ears vibrate rapidly to tickle your clit and get you very aroused. On most of the rabbit vibrators, the gyrating motion has a independent multi-speed controller to the multi-speed controller of the vibrating clit teaser.

Some of the Rabbit Vibrators had rows of metal beads in the shaft that will rotate in circles to massage your vagina lips, and the very inside of your vagina. Depending on the rabbit vibrator you get, the beads could be in straight rows, or independently mixed around. This is a unique feature that no other vibrators have.

Some Rabbit Vibrators are smaller than others, and some are even strap-ons. It all depends on what you want and what you want to experience, so really just take a look around and see what you like. Most Rabbit Vibrators are waterproof, so you can take them into the tub or shower and have some real wet fun! Also, they come in all sorts of different colors!

Rabbit Vibrators are unique, and maybe the most popular line of vibrators out there. Overall, the reason Rabbit Vibrators are so popular is that they are very powerful and quiet for discreet usage, they are unique and feel very good for a woman.

These wonderful vibrators are a little pricey, but are definitely worth every penny. If you’ve never tried one, what are you waiting for? It is an unequaled experience that every woman should take part in and feel for herself.

It’s true they are a girl’s best friend. In fact some women will tell you that if it’s a choice between their rabbit vibrator or their guy then the guys got to go!

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Some people think that when they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, that our sexual toys at Eroticnights4u.com are a substitute for the “real thing”.  On the contrary, our selection of vibrators, anal plugs, dildos and sexual lubricants are perfect for you whether you are using them on your own or with your partner.  If you happen to be single, these toys are not meant to replace real sex with a real person, but they sure can turn you on enough to want to use them over and over again!

There are advantages to using sexual toys that are better than dealing with a significant other.  We’re not saying that it’s not great to have a physical relationship with another person, but you won’t have to worry about pleasing them, as with these toys, it’s all about pleasing yourself.  If that’s what you get the toys for, and if you are succeeding with your goals, then you must be happy with the sexual toys that we provide.  If you are someone who likes to be physical with another person AND use our toys, well, that’s even better.

Many couples lack intimacy, and even if they don’t, if you’re together for a while, things can get a bit stale and boring.  Complaints of “We’ve done that so many times….let’s try something different” are what we hear about all the time.  Lots of people just want to experiment and try new things, and what better way to do that with our selection of dildos, cock rings, vibrators and sexual DVD’s and lubricant enhancers?  Using any of these sexual items as a couple can do wonders for a relationship.  Things won’t be boring anymore and you’ll add some spice to your physical relationship!

Customers of ours are simply amazed by how much tension is released when you try new things.

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