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Dress Nice

Think of going to a strip club as going on a date: you want to look your best for the girls. Shower beforehand, shave, and brings mints or gum. The dancers will thank you for it by getting a lot closer to you. If you want a lap dance, wear loose fitting clothing for both your comfort and the dancers: they’re not fans of jeans (especially zippers) and you’ll feel um, much better.

Bring Lots Of Cash

Strip clubs are a business: the girls are there to make money from you. Their earnings come from tips and they have to give a good portion back to the club. Bring ample cash for a good time but give yourself a limit. Most clubs have ATM machines available, but be prepared to pay surcharges and additional bank fees. Do not sit stageside unless you plan to tip the dancers on stage: it may result in a visit from a bouncer or club management.

Look, Don’t Touch

The big rule of thumb with exotic dancers is to follow, not lead. Do not touch them unless they give you the green light by guiding your hands. Strip clubs have a strict “touch and go” policy: you touch, you go. Additionally, if you are rude to a dancer, you could find yourself being thrown out by one of the guerilla guards. Be nice, and nobody gets hurt.

Don’t Expect Sex

Bad news: despite what you see on TV or see in porn flicks, you will not get laid at a strip club. There are perhaps a few exceptions, like if you’re an A-list celebrity or multi-millionaire. But if you are neither, forget it. Also: paying extra for the Champaign Room/VIP Room will get you some extra attention from a dancer, but not sex. Club owners do not want their establishments to be shut down for breaking the law. In fact, most clubs have surveillance cameras inside the rooms to monitor any illegal activity.

Be Assertive, But Polite

If a girl approaches you about a dance and you’re not interested, just be polite and say, “No thank you, maybe later.” Don’t try to keep talking to her for free. Allow her to find other customers who’ll pay for her company. Also, make a habit of tipping the girls you do like. Otherwise, word will spread quickly that you’re not a paying customer and trust us; you don’t want that kind of rep if you ever plan to come back.

Be Friendly With The Dancers

You don’t have to be completely silent while getting a dance. Talk to the girls and be charming – and respectful. They may be more inclined to get even “more friendly” with you. Another thing to do is ask the stripper about her past experiences – most of them have lot of interesting stories to share. You won’t get sex for asking, but it could mean extra time sitting with a practically naked girl.

Tip Everyone

If you want the best experience at a strip club, your best bet is to tip everyone there including the bouncer, DJ, and bartender. The bouncer could get you better seating, the DJ could direct the hottest girls your way, and the bartender may give you stronger drinks (well, maybe).

Timing Is Everything

The best time to go to a strip club entirely depends on what you’re looking for. If discretion is important, then you should go during off-peak hours: weekdays before 9. If you’re looking for the biggest and best selection of girls, your best shot is a Friday or Saturday night after 10pm.

And there you have it. Ready to go? Before you head out, check your local city paper or adult publication for special offers. But don’t forget if a club’s offering free admission, they’ll often get you on the drink minimum. One last piece of advice: the best rule of thumb in regards to gentleman’s clubs is to simply use common sense.

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Life is stressful as it is and adding relationships to the mix can play a very negative role on your anxiety levels, especially if you already have a habit of developing panic-stricken attacks when it comes to love and dating.

Over the last 10 years there has been progress in various therapies to help relieve the burden of anxiety. It is best that you try to avoid taking drugs to cope your dating anxiety.

Below are some dating anxiety prevention tips:

1. Instead of hiding your nervousness, admit it to yourself and your date.
Often times what leads to a major anxiety attack spawns from trying to keep your initial nervousness covered up. If your ’special someone’ comes into the room to see you then do not pretend your anxiety isn’t there. Simply say “I am sorry if I appear nervous, but I am very nervous right now”. Your date will appreciate the honestly and by telling him/her you’ll feel a lot better.

2. If you had an anxious episode during a date then afterwards do not beat yourself up worrying how you acted.
It’s best just to give yourself affirmations in a positive manner that helps you build confidence and do better the next time around by taking control.

3. In order to calm down each time you have an anxiety attack, simply walk away and breathe.
If you happen to be with your new girlfriend or boyfriend then by following my previous tip on being honest with them about your nervousness, and also let them know that you need a minute alone, walk outside, and breathe slowly until you regain composure. Before you know it, this simple technique will calm you down every time.

Have you ever fantasized about being a stripper? Have you ever thought it would be cool to do a striptease for your lover? Well, guess what? You’re not alone!

Truth be told, many women have this same fantasy. Many more have even “busted a move” for their lover. Sound like fun? It sure is! Plus, the Romantic Striptease is an awesome way to show your lover just how sexy you’re feeling. And take it from me, he will agree with you 100%.

Of course anytime you remove your own clothes in front of your lover there’s sure to be “fireworks”. But lets do something special. Let’s treat your lover, let’s plan an actual Romantic Striptease.

So, what’s needed to make the Romantic Striptease a success? Let’s have a look.

First and foremost, you do not have to be a professional dancer to do this. This is for fun between you and your sweetie. Enjoy the time together.

Next, is music selection. Keep in mind you and your partner’s taste. The music you choose needs to be a bit on the slow side. Not too slow and draggy, but slow enough so you will be able to take your time removing your clothes one piece at a time and really Tease.

Speaking of clothing, you’ll have to plan what to wear. And, you won’t need to go shopping either. Well…not unless you want to. It is best to start off fully dressed. After all it is called a “Strip TEASE”. Removing layers is much more fun, and exciting. A sexy dress, or blouse and skirt, choose an outfit that always turns your partner on. You know, the one where he just can’t keep his hands off you. Then for underneath that, choose a couple more things. A pretty camisole, over a sexy bra. On the bottom put a pair of sexy skimpy panties over a pair of thongs. Eventually you’ll be removing it all, one piece at a time. Remember, anything that drive’s your sweetie wild, and whatever makes you feel sexy and desirable is in order here. You can pretty much choose whatever’s in your closet for the outer layer. A good, “naughty” choice is always the schoolgirl look, or you could go for the button-down business look. A tie would later make a great prop. Just think about looping it behind his head to pull him into your breasts.

Then accessorize. This includes anything like glasses, hats, ties, as well as the all-important thigh highs, (or garter belt and stockings) and stiletto heels. Just make sure you can actually move around and dance in those stilettos. If you don’t have any in your closet, borrow a pair from a friend. Also long necklaces look amazing when you’re down to the bare essentials, plus long gloves and feather boas are great accessories too.

Place a chair somewhere in your bedroom where you will have easy access to move all around it. Of course it’s for your sweetie to sit on and watch as you dazzle him with your StripTease. Also, chill some of your lover’s favorite beverage. Wine or champagne would be great. You could have some fresh fruit like strawberries or grapes to feed your lover as you dance up a storm. Just remember to take it slow and easy.

When the time comes to do your Romantic StripTease remove one piece of clothing at a time, making sure to linger on each piece. Give it a try, I promise you and your lover will have great fun. Oh yeah and great sex as well!

The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.

There is a very good reason why these are the most common complaints – men and women are very different when it comes to sex!

The biological sexual drive, or lack of it, relates to how much testosterone is present. Men biologically have much more testosterone than women. Men’s biology equips them to be ready for sex most of the time, which is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species. Women, on the other hand, often do not experience a biological sexual drive unless they are in the middle of their menstrual cycle. This fact can create a big problem in relationships.

I’ve often heard men complain that:

“It’s not fair. My wife is in control of our sex life. If she wants it, then we have it. If she doesn’t, then I have no say about it. Why does it always have to be her way?”

“My wife complains that she needs to feel intimate before we make love, but I get to intimacy through making love.”

“I don’t reach out for sex much anymore because I’m tired of being rejected, but my wife says she wants to be pursued in a romantic way. This feels like a no-win to me.”

“I think if my wife really cared about me and my needs, she would have sex with me even when she wasn’t turned on.”

I’ve often heard women complain that:

“He always seems to be ready for sex, but I don’t feel turned on unless we are feeling close. I can’t just watch TV all evening and then feel like making love.”

“I often feel pulled on for sex, as if having sex is more important than caring about me. When I do what he wants, I feel used, and when I don’t, I run into his anger, resentment, blame or withdrawal. It feels like a no-win.”

“My husband often comes to me like a needy little boy, wanting me to pacify him or validate him with sex. Ugh! There is nothing erotic about an insecure, needy little boy!”

“There must be something wrong with me. I just don’t ever feel turned on anymore.”

The very real issue here, at least for most men under 40, is that they are biologically motivated and women are mostly emotionally motivated. Heterosexual women get turned on when their man is warm, open, caring, and personally powerful. Most women are not turned on by a man who is closed, distant, angry, blaming, or needy.

The problems of frequency can get resolved as men and women learn to understand and accept each other’s differences. Men need to understand and accept that women are not as biologically motivated as men are. Many women rarely even think about sex, while most men will tell you that they think about sex frequently throughout the day. When men understand that women are turned on by love, romance, emotional intimacy, warmth, caring, and personal power, then men may be motivated to learn to be the loving, powerful and romantic partners that women want and need.

When women can accept that men’s biology is very present for them, they can stop putting men down for it and start supporting their men in creating more emotional intimacy, romance, and personal power. When women criticize men instead of understanding and accepting them, they help to create some of the insecurity that is such a turn off to many women. When a woman can appreciate rather than demean her man for his sexuality, she can find ways of meeting his needs without feeling used.

Understanding and accepting each other’s differences and needs can lead both men and women toward more satisfying sex lives.

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But Sex Toys are only part of the equation. It’s also time to talk dirty. Spice things up ever further by talking dirty to your partner.  One of the biggest hurdles to talking dirty is confusion. You may ask yourself “What does my partner want” or maybe you ask yourself “What do I say?”

Perhaps this might help…….

When you want her to know she fills your soul, makes you a better person and that words fall short in expressing your undying love, the overwhelming feelings can sometimes leave you without any good ideas for your Valentine’s Day. But there is hope in delivering a satisfying, personal and romantic Valentine’s Day tailored just for her if you plan ahead and do it all one step at a time.

Step One: Determining Her Wants and Needs
The first step to creating an amazing Valentine’s Day for the special woman in your life, is knowing who she is and what she needs. Does she prefer to be active on a day off? Is she more relaxed and prefers to lounge? What kinds of things does she need in her life right now? A pedicure? A massage? A new movie that was just released on DVD? That necklace she’s been talking about?
You should even try to think of things she may have told you about, like where she used to go to get away when she needed to be alone.

Step Two: Combining Needs with Location
Now that you’ve taken some time to really think about who your lover is and what she needs this Valentine’s Day, choosing a location shouldn’t be so difficult.

If she’s active and used to love getting away out in the country, take her to the zoo for a quiet picnic for two and some animal sight seeing. If she prefers to lounge around and has fond memories of cuddling by the fireplace, set up a love nest with blankets, pillows and mattress pillows in the loft or living room. Consider a portable DVD player as a gift to make your hide-away evening amazing with some romantic films and a backpack full of snacks, sandwiches and of course, chocolate.

Maybe your partner is a very busy woman, however, and has expressed a strong desire to be caught up in life. These women usually work very hard while trying to juggle a home and children. For this kind of Valentine’s Day need, I would suggest taking Valentine’s Day off, seeing the lovely woman off to work, hiring a housekeeper and asking grandma to come get the kids. This leaves you with ample time to plan reservations at an elegant reastuarant or an indoor picnic near the fireplace or television. You could also have a hot bath ready for the moment she steps in the door, complete with red rose petals floating gently atop the water, bath oil already mixed in and lovely, aromatic candles lit about the clean bathroom. This is an excellent precursor to a simplistic but tasty dinner like the ones listed at the end of this article.

For those men who love the woman with a wild or unpredictable streak, choosing a location may be more difficult. Which is why you are the kind of man who shouldn’t make reservations too far in advance. Choose two locations which don’t require too much planning. One of these locations should be a relatively active location like an outdoor community concert performed in her taste of music. Maybe she likes more excitement like local off-roading shows or carnivals and theme parks, which would also make a private meal for two in the parking lot a special treat. The right picnic basket and a blanket could turn your tailgate into a memorable experience. The other location should be a relaxing location like a popular Garden or park. Taking along a specialized picnic basket with wine will warm her heart and likely take her desires home after the meal.

Step Three: Executing the Plan With Creativity
You shouldn’t be surprised that the nurturing woman you love and adore appreciates silly and creative gestures in almost any form. While men are physical and literal creatures who usually keep balance in the family, women are emotional, sensitive and caring, which promotes happiness, positive behavior and other nurturing qualities in the home. So even if you feel a little strange going to the craft store for card stock and stickers, know that she will melt and believe that you’ve begun to understand her.

A great example of adding creativity to your Valentine’s Day would be placing hand written notes inside each pocket of a beautiful Surprise gift basket. Not only will she enjoy ruffling through to the goodies inside, but the little notes will be like an extra kiss on the cheek every time she reads one. Simple phrases like “You make me melt” or “This day should last forever” and “I love you more with time” should be superb.

Another way to get creative, especially for an outdoor event that leaves you with little privacy until retirement, is finding sneaky ways to give her jewelry, notes, candy or other small gifts, including gift cards. There are several ways to do this including buying her an oversized zip-up jacket just to keep her warm while you’re outdoors. Slip notes, jewelry and candy into the pockets and watch as she discovers them while warming her hands!

You could also try buying her a small, inexpensive jewelry box, placing little notes and jewelry inside and then wrapping it. She’ll probably like the jewelry box and then be surprised to find there’s more to the gift. If you plan ahead and have reservations for a restaurant or a fun place like Medieval Times, you can request that they make an announcement for you or bring her gift to her with her meal. Be cautious, however. Women who don’t like attention won’t find this flattering.

Once you’ve decided on how to be creative and have a location, all you need to worry about is being relaxed and getting her there. A stressed out guy is the last thing a woman wants on Valentine’s Day so be sure to be her rock and get her through this cherished holiday.

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Many couples use dirty talk to spice up sex. Talking dirty is an acquired art, like dancing or writing poetry. It seems intimidating, but anyone can learn how to do it. 

Here are some great tips to steer you in the right path.

Watch what you say (in other words, try to stay on the safe side until you know your partner can handle it). Tone the level of profanity until you know your partner is comfortable with it. There’s a fine line between seductive and sleazy. Try to use good judgments when revealing your intimate thought.

Start by using descriptive and positive talk. Compliment a particular part of your lover’s body that you find irresistible. “You have an awesome butt. It’s so nice and round. Just the way I like it.”, “You’re legs are super sexy. Come here and let me touch you.”, “I love the taste of your (name part or fluid)!.”

Be sincere. The trick is to pull off dirty talk without sounding cheesy. Look your partner in the eyes. Hold their hand. Say it like you mean it. You should only go as far as you feel comfortable. It shouldn’t seem rehearsed. When your partner does something that makes you feel phenomenal tell them. “Oh baby, that feels soooo Good!”, “You’re getting me so horny (hard).”, “That move drives me craazzy!”, “I want you so bad!”

Use dirty talk to coach or cheer your partner on. If you want your partner to buck or thrust harder, demand it! “Harder! Harder! Do me harder!”, “Faster, faster! Quick baby, I need it!” Additionally, if you’re enjoying the way your partner is touching a particular area, cheer them on by say, “Oh yeah, do it right there! Honey, that’s your spot!” or “Nobody can do that like you!”

Practice, practice, practice. Although you don’t want dirty pillow talk to sound rehearse or routine. Instead, practice being comfortable talking about your fantasy with your partner. Tell your partner what you want him/her to do to you. And encourage them you reveal their fantasies.