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420
refers to marijuana use

B

BACK DOOR
Slang for anal sex.

B&D or B/D
Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

BALLOON KNOT
The anus.

BAREBACK
Having sex without a condom, used especially for anal sex.

BBW
Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..

BDSM
A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.

BESTIALITY
(see ANIMAL TRAINING)

BI
Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)

BI-CURIOUS
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

BISEXUAL
A person interested in sex with both men and women. Compare HOMOSEXUAL, someone who has sexual interest in the same sex, and HETROSEXUAL, someone with sexual interest in the opposite sex.

BIZARRE
Unusual sexual desires

BLUEBALLS
When a man has an erection for a long period of time without ejaculating; this can cause a swollen, painful feeling in the testicles.

BLOW JOB
Oral sex performed on a man; FELLATIO.

BONER
Erection.

BLOODSPORTS
BDSM play that involves blood, including cutting and piercing.

BONDAGE
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

BOTTTOM
1. The submissive person in BDSM activity. Opposite of TOP.
2. The one who is penetrated during anal sex, especially between gay males. Opposite of TOP.

BREATH PLAY
Restricting airflow, by strangulation, suffocation, or other means for sexual stimulation.

BROTHEL
A business establishment where prostitutes offer sexual services for money.

BUDDY BOOTH
A booth in an adult video store that allows viewing and/or interaction with the person in an adjacent booth.

BUGGER
ANAL SEX, especially anal sex performed by a man on a man.

BUKKAKE
A Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.

BUST A NUT
To EJACULATE; to have sexual intercourse.

BUTCH
Possessing traditionally masculine appearance, attributes and behaviors. Often used to describe gay men and women. Opposite of FEMME.

BUTT PLUG
A sex toy designed for anal penetration that has a flared base. Usually smaller than a typical dildo and not shaped like a penis.

BUTT FUCKING
To have ANAL SEX.

C

CAN ENTERTAIN
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.

CANING
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

CASTRATE
Removing the testicles of a man.

CHEATING
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.

CHERRY
The HYMEN or, figuratively used for virginity, as in "to pop someone's cherry", to take someone's virginity.

CHOAD
Penis.

CHOCOLATE STARFISH
Humorous term for the ANUS. So named because the anus looks like a starfish, "chocolate" refers to shit. Sometimes used in a derogatory sense against gay people.

CIRCUMCISION / CIRCUMCISE
Removing the FORESKIN of the penis, often done to infants.

CLAP
GONORRHEA. Usage note: usually used in the phrase "the clap"

CLEAN
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLIMAX
ORGASM.

CLIT
CLITORIS.

CLITORIS
The female sexual organ located at the top front of the vulva that, when stimulated, becomes hard and can produce an orgasm.

CLOSED DOOR
(see CLOSED SWINGING)

CLOSED SWINGING
Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.

CLOSET SWINGER
A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)

COCK
PENIS.

COCK SNOT
Humorous term for SEMEN.

COCK PIT
Humorous, vulgar term for VAGINA.

COCK RING
A device, often a leather strap, placed at the base of an erect penis in order to restrict blood flow and maintain an erection.

COITUS
Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman, where the man puts his penis in the woman's vagina.

COITUS INTERRUPTUS
Removing the penis from the vagina before the man ejaculates as a form of contraception; pulling out.

COME
1. SEMEN. Also spelled "cum".
2. To have an ORGASM.

CONDOM
condom - n.
A sheath placed over the penis during sexual intercourse to prevent pregnancy and the transmission of disease by forming a barrier and capturing the semen. Condoms are usually made of latex but sometimes are made of polyurethane or animal skin.

COPROPHILIA
Sexual interest in feces (shit).

COPROPHAGIA
Eating feces (shit). Considered an extremely dangerous sexual practice.

COPULATE
To have SEXUAL INTERCOURSE.

COUPLE
In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

CPL
(see COUPLE)

CREAM
When used in reference to men: to ejaculate. When used with women: to produce vaginal lubrication; to female ejaculate.

CROSS DRESS
For a man to wear women's clothing. Used especially for men who only occasionally dress as women but maintain their masculine identity otherwise. See also TRANSVESTITE, TRANSSEXUAL,

CRUSHING
A fetish practice where someone steps on food, insects, or even small animals.

CUCKOLD
While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.

CULTURE
Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.

CUM
SEMEN.

CUNNILINGUS
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)

CUNT
Harsh, often offensive term used to refer to the VAGINA.

CUT
CIRCUMCISED. Opposite of UNCUT.

CYBER
Engage in CYBERSEX.

CYBERSEX
Having sex over the Internet. Usually refers to erotic chatting via the computer while one or both of the parties is masturbating.

D

D/D FREE
Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not use drugs.

DEEP THROAT
Fellatio in which the penis is inserted far into the mouth, entering the throat.

DEFLOWER
For a man to have sexual intercourse with a virgin woman.

DENTAL DAM
A safe sex barrier, usually made of a flat sheet of of, used when performing oral sex on women.

DICK
PENIS

DILDO
A cylindrical sex toy, often shaped like a penis, used to penetrate the vagina or anus. Usage note: A dildo generally refers to a toy with no moving parts, as opposed to a VIBRATOR which includes an electric motor and vibrates.

DIRECTOR
The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.

DIRTY SANCHEZ
1. Performing oral sex on someone after they engage in anal sex.
2. After anal sex, wiping off off the dirty penis or hand on the woman's upper lip, to simulate a moustache.

DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCREET OR DISCRETION
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

DOCILE
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).

DOGGIE STYLE
Sexual intercourse where the man enters the woman's vagina from her back side; also called rear-entry.

DOMESTIC TRAINING
Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

DOMINATRIX
A dominant person in a bondage or S&M relationship; usually denotes a female professional. See DOMME.

DOMME
The dominant person in a bondage or S&M relationship; usually female. See DOMINATRIX

DOUBLE PENETRATION
Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral)

DP
Double Penetration

DOMINANT
A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

DRAG QUEEN
A man who dresses in women's clothing, the term is especially used for gay men who dress up in elaborate outfits sometimes as part of a stage show. See also TRANSVESTITE.

DRUM SOLO
When a woman has an ORGASM, referring to the rhythmic throbbing of the CLITORIS.

E

EAGLE WINGS
The position where a woman's legs are spread wide open during sex, especially when she received oral sex.

EAT (SOMEONE) OUT
To perform ORAL SEX on a woman; perform CUNNILINGUS

ED
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION.

EDGEPLAY
Potentially dangerous sexual practices, often involving pain.

EJACULATION
When a man expels semen from the penis during an orgasm. See also FEMALE EJACULATION.

ENEMA
An apparatus used to cause evacuation (to make you shit) by pumping water or inserting a chemical into the rectum

ENGLISH CULTURE:
Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

ENTER
To put the penis into the vagina or anus.

ENTERTAIN
(see CAN ENTERTAIN)

ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
The inability to get or sustain an erection, a euphemism for IMPOTENCE. Abbreviated as ED.

ERECTION
When the penis becomes engorged with blood and rigid due to sexual stimulation.

EROTIC
Sexually exciting or interesting. Used especially for stories, pictures, etc.

EROTICA
Sexually exciting stories, movies, pictures, etc. Usually used in a positive sense. Compare PORNOGRAPHY

EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB
One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night).

EXHIBITIONIST
Getting sexual pleasure from exposing oneself to others or being watched while having sex. Opposite of VOYEURISM.

EXOTIC DANCER
Euphemism for STRIPPER.

F

F
Female

FACIAL
When a man ejaculates on a someone's face. Used in the phrase "give a facial."

FACESITTING
A fetish practice where a woman sits on a man's face, smothering him.

FANNY FART
QUEEF.

FELCH
To ejaculate into an anus and then lick or suck the semen out. Sometimes this word is mistakenly used to refer to placing a gerbil or other small animal into the anus.

FELLATE
Perform FELLATIO.

FELLATIO
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

FEMALE EJACULATION
When a woman has an orgasm and expels fluid from her genitals.

FEMDOM
A woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM play; a DOMINATRIX

FEMME
Possessing traditional feminine appearance, attributes and behaviors. Often used to describe gay men and women. Opposite of BUTCH.

FEMINIZATION
Dressing a man up in women's clothing, make-up, etc. to take on a female appearance. Sometimes used in BDSM play as a form of humiliation.

FETISH
A strong sexual interest in or obsession over some object, body part, or activity. Examples include foot fetish and latex fetish. Also used broadly to describe any non-traditional sex, especially BDSM.

FFM or FMF
Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME)

FINGER
To stimulate a woman sexually with the hand, especially stimulating the clitoris to produce an orgasm.

FIST - FISTING
To place much of the hand, or the entire hand, in the vagina or anus.

FLACCID
Of a penis, soft, not aroused.

FLAGELLATION
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FLASH
To expose oneself, especially in a short, sudden manner. Usually used to refer to men showing their penis and women showing their breasts.

FLUFFER
A woman or man who performs oral sex on an actor to arouse him in preparation for a MONEY SHOT ("cum shot") that must be filmed quickly and with little on-camera preparation. Also called "fluff girl" or "fluff boy".

FONDLE
To touch or caress someone, especially the genitals or breasts. Often used to refer to unwanted touching.

FOOT JOB
Rubbing feet on the penis, usually until ejaculation.

FOREPLAY
Sexual activity as a prelude to intercourse, including kissing, gential fondling, and oral sex.

FORESKIN
A fold of skin that covers the tip of the penis; it is removed in circumcision. See Dr. Dean Edell's gallery of uncircumcised penises.

FORNICATE
Sexual intercourse between unmarried people. Usually used in a derogatory or moralistic sense.

FRENCH CULTURE:
Oral-genital sexual activity (see FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)

FROTTAGE
Rubbing against someone else for sexual pleasure without engaging in penetration. Generally used to refer to consensual activity. See also FROTTEURISM.

FROTTEURISM
A fetish that involves rubbing up against an unsuspecting or unwilling person. Consensual rubbing is usually called FROTTAGE.

FROTTEURIST
One who engages in FROTTEURISM.

FUCK
To have sexual intercourse. Also used to describe penetrative activities other than penis/vagina intercourse, (e.g., finger-fuck, tit-fuck.)

FUDGE PACKER
A derogatory, offensive term for someone who engages in anal sex, especially a male homosexual.

FULL SWAP
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse (see SOFT SWAP)

FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for sexual activity.

G

GANG BANG
When many men have sex with a single woman one after another or even at the same time.

GAY
HOMOSEXUAL. Refers to both homosexual men and homosexual women (also called LESBIANS).

GBM
Gay Black Male

GENEROUS
Refers to money for sex.

GFE (Girlfriend Experience)
A session with a prostitute where the prostitute treats her client as if she were his girlfriend.

GIANTESS
A huge, larger-than-life woman that is a object of fetishistic interest.

GLORY HOLE
A hole cut through a wall, allowing anonymous sex between people on either side of the wall. Often found in gay sex clubs.

GLANS
The tip of the penis.

GO DOWN
To perform ORAL SEX on a man or woman.

GOLDEN SHOWER
Urinating on someone else. See also WATERSPORTS.

GONORRHEA
A sexually transmitted disease, caused by the gonococcus bacteria, that causes painful urination in men and puss discharge from the penis.

GONZO
Adult videos which lack any plot or pretense and just show people having sex on camera.

GORILLA SALAD
Pubic hair.

GREEK CULTURE
Anal-penile intercourse

GROUP ROOM
Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).

GROUP SEX
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.

G-SPOT [Grafenberg Spot]
An area in the upper wall of the vagina supposed to be especially pleasurable when stimulated

GWM
Gay White Male

H

HALF-AND-HALF
When a prostitute performs fellatio and sexual intercourse in a single sex session.

HAND JOB
Manual stimulation of someone's penis often resulting in his ejaculation; masturbating someone.

HARD
When a man is aroused with a stiff penis due to sexual stimulation.

HARDCORE
1. Sexual pictures, movies, etc. that show genitals, especially an erect penis, and often include penetration. Opposite of SOFTCORE.
2. Intense or dangerous sexual activity.

HARD ON
An erection.

HARD SWINGING
(see HARD CORE)

HARLOT
A prostitute.

HEAD
1. Oral sex, specifically performed on a man; FELLATIO.
2. The top part of the penis, the tip.

HEDONIST
Someone who lives for pleasure.

HENTAI
Japanese animation (anime) depicting graphic sexual scenes.

HET
HETEROSEXUAL.

HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)

HORNY
Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

HOSIERY
Any legwear, especially sheer leggings made of nylon or silk especially worn by women. Pantyhose.

HUMMER
FELLATIO / BLOWJOB

HUMP
1. To have sexual intercourse.
2. To rub the genitals against each other without penetration or even while clothed.

HUNG
Having a large penis, often used in the phrase "well hung".

HWP
Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

HUSTLER
A prostitute, especially a male prostitute.

HYMEN
A fold of tissue that partly covers the entrance of the vagina in some women. Sexual intercourse tears an intact hymen, and so an intact hymen is viewed as a sign of virginity in a woman. However, the hymen is often torn through non-sexual activities and some women are born without a hymen.

J

JACK OFF
To MASTURBATE, especially used to refer to men.

JERK OFF
To MASTURBATE, especially used to refer to men.

JILL OFF
For a woman to MASTURBATE.

JUICE
The vaginal lubrication that a woman naturally produces when sexually aroused.

K

KEGEL EXERCISES
Exercises done to increase strength of the pelvic floor muscle. Said to help women achieve orgasm.

KINKY
Sexual activity that is somehow non-traditional or exotic. See also BDSM.

L

LEATHER
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.

LEATHER CHEERIO
The anus.

LESBIAN
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL)

LEVITRA
Bayer's trademark name for its erectile dysfunction drug, vardenafil HCl, similar to Viagra.

LIBIDO
Sexual interest. Horniness.

LINGAM
Ancient Indian term for the penis or a representation of the penis; appears in the Kama Sutra and often used in reference to Tantric sex. See also YONI.

LIPSTICK LESBIAN
A lesbian who displays "traditional" feminine dress

LOAD
Semen. Sometimes used in the phrase "blow your load" to mean EJACULATE

LOLITA
An underage girl or sex with an underage girl, after the Nabokov novel Lolita.

LOVE TUNNEL
VAGINA

LTR
Long Term Relationship

LUBE
Lubricant.

LUBRICANT
A slippery substance used to make sex more comfortable and pleasurable.

LUCKY PIERRE
A man, having sex with two other men, who is simultaneously penetrating one man anally while being penetrated anally by the other. He is "lucky" because he is the only one of the three to enjoy both sex acts simultaneously.

M

M
Male

MAIDENHEAD
VIRGINITY; the HYMEN.

MAKE-OUT SLUT
A woman who tends to kiss many men but rarely (or never) has sexual intercourse.

MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

MASOCHISM
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.

MASTURBATION - MASTURBATE
Giving oneself sexual pleasure, especially using the hand to stimulate the genitals, and often resulting in orgasm.

MASTURBATORY
Relating to or similar to MASTURBATION.

MASTURBILIA
Something used during masturbation, like a picture, article of clothing, or other object, that reminds the masturbator of someone they are fantasizing about. Derived from combining "masturbation" and "memorabilia".

MASTER/SLAVE
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).

MBC
Married Black Couple

MBIC
Married Bisexual Couple

MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.

MENAGE A TROIS
Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)

MFM or MMF
Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME)

MISSIONARY POSITION
The "traditional" sexual position in the West, where the woman lies on her back with her legs spread and the man mounts her with his arms supporting his weight.

MISTRESS
A dominant woman in a BDSM relationship; a DOMINATRIX.

MONEY SHOT
The climactic scene in a porn film when the man ejaculates, usually onto the woman's body or face; a cum shot.

MORESOMES
More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)

MULTIORGASMIC
Prone to having MULTIPLE ORGASMS.

MULTIPLE ORGASM
Having more than one orgasm in a single sex session, especially in rapid succession. Usually experienced by women.

MUTUAL MASTURBATION
Masturbating in close proximity to someone else or using the hand to fondle another person's genitals.

MWC
Married White Couple

N

NASCA
The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.

NECROPHILIA
The desire to have sex with dead people.

NEWCOMERS
New people in swinging; First-timers.

NOCTURNAL EMISSION
When a man has an erotic dream and ejaculates in his sleep. A wet dream.

NONOXYNOL-9
A spermicide added to lubricants to increase contraceptive effectiveness. Note: it was originally thought to be useful in protecting against the AIDS virus, but has recently been shown to actually encourage AIDS infections.

NONSMOKER
Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

NOONER
A sexual encounter during the lunchtime hour, especially one that takes place at the office; see also QUICKIE.

NYMPHOMANIA, NYMPHOMANIACC
Derogatory term for a woman who is sexually obsessed or has sex with many partners. Usage note: This term is generally regarded as sexist.

O

O FACE
The facial expression of someone when having an orgasm.

OFF-PREMISE
No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.

ONANISM
MASTURBATION.

ON-PREMISE
A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.

OPEN DOOR
(see OPEN SWINGING)

OPEN RELATIONSHIP
A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.

OPEN SWINGING
A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.

ORAL CONTRACEPTIVE

A pill taken by women that allows them to have sex without becoming pregnant; birth control pill.

ORAL-GENITAL
(see FRENCH; CUNNILINGUS; FELLATIO; HEAD)

ORAL SEX
A sex act where the mouth of one person is placed on the genitals of another. See also FELLATIO (oral sex performed on a man) and CUNNILINGUS (oral sex performed on a woman).

ORGASM
The pleasurable, climactic release of sexual tension. In a man, it is usually accompanied by EJACULATION.

ORGY
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

P

PACK THE FUDGE
A crude and often derogatory term for engaging in anal sex. See also FUDGE PACKER.

PARAPHILIA
A sexual obsession, usually over an object or sex act. See also FETISH.

PARTY
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

PARTY CLOTHES
Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE
A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

PASSIVE
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)

PC (PUBOCOCCYGEUS) MUSCLE
The muscle targeted in Kegel exercises.

PEARL NECKLACE
Ejaculating on someone's neck and upper chest, especially after receiving fellatio. Derived from the white drops of cum that are reminiscent of pearls.

PENETRATION - PENETRATE
1. Inserting the penis into the vagina.
2. Inserting the penis into the anus.

PEG
To use a strap-on dildo on someone.

PENIS
The male sex organ that engorges with blood and becomes erect. It is inserted into the vagina during sexual intercourse and expels semen when a man reaches an orgasm.

PETIT MORT
French for the "little death"; an ORGASM.

PHOTO
Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

PHOTOGRAPHY
Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.

PLAY
Sexual activity, especially BDSM activity.

POCKET PAL
A sex toy shaped to resemble a vagina.

POLYAMORY
Having sexual relationships with more than one person.

POP SOMEONE'S CHERRY
To take someone's virginity. See CHERRY.

PORN
PORNOGRAPHY

PORNOGRAPHY
Any sexually explicit picture, movie, book, etc. Usually used in a derogatory sense. Compare EROTICA.

P/P
Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).

PREMARITAL SEX
Sexual intercourse between two young, unmarried people.

PREMATURE EJACULATION
When a man cannot control the timing of his orgasm and ejaculates too quickly.

PRIAPISM
An medical condition characterized by a painful erection that won't go down.

PRO
Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

PUDENDUM, PUDENDA
A woman's external genitals; the VULVA.

PUSSY
The vagina.

PUSSY JUICE
JUICE.

Q

QUEEF
To fart with the vagina.

QUEER
Gay or lesbian. Usage note: Originally a derogatory term, now used by gay and lesbian people to refer to themselves.

QUICKIE
Sexual intercourse that is short in duration. See also NOONER.

R

RAINBOW SEX
Performing oral sex on a woman while she is menstruating.

RAW
Sex without a condom; BAREBACK.

RECREATIONAL SWINGER
A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.

RESTRAINT
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

RIMMING - RIM JOB
Performing oral sex on the anus, especially licking the edge of the anus. See also ANILINGUS.

REACH AROUND
The act of performing anal sex on a man reaching around to the front to simultaneously give him a HAND JOB.

RED WINGS
Oral sex performed on a woman while she is menstruating, see also EAGLE WINGS.

ROMAN
Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)

ROMAN CULTURE
Sexual orgies

RUBBER
Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

RUSTY TROMBONE
When someone licks a man's ass and reaches around to the front to masturbate his penis. So called because it appears that the person is blowing into the ass and manipulating the penis like a musical instrument. Also may refer to performing oral sex on a man right after he's engaged in anal sex.

S

SADISM
Getting sexual pleasure by inflicting pain, discomfort, or humiliation on someone. See also BDSM.

SAFE
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.

SAPPHIC
Of or relating to lesbians.

S.A.S.E.
Self-addressed stamped envelope.

SBF
Single Black Female

SBiF
Single Bisexual Female

SBM
Single Black Male

SCAT
Sex play involving shit. See also COPROPHILIA.

SCISSOR FIGHT
When two women press their vaginas together by intertwining their legs; tribadism.

SCORE
To have sex. Especially used to describe a man having sex with a woman for the first time.

SCROTUM
The sack that holds the testicles.

SEMEN
The sperm-containing fluid that a man expels when he has an orgasm; CUM.

SEX ADDICT
Someone with a compulsive, often self-destructive need to engage in sexual activity

SEXPERT
Someone who has gained a reputation as being an expert on sex, especially someone who appears in the media talking about sex.

SEX SURROGATE
A counselor who helps people with their sexual problems by engaging in sexual activity with them.

SEX THERAPIST
A counselor or psychologist who helps people with their sexual problems.

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
Any disease transmitted through sexual contact. See VENEREAL DISEASE.

SEX TOYS
An object designed to enhance sexual pleasure. Examples include a dildo or vibrator.

SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
Sexual relations that generally include penetration of the vagina by the penis.

SGL
Single(see SINGLE)

S&M or S/M
Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM)

SHAFT
Referring to an erect penis, the area from the base to (but not including) the head.

SHEMALE
A transsexual who has not yet undergone a complete sex change, so that he has both breasts and a penis.

SHOCKER
A technique of manual stimulation where the pointer and middle finger are inserted into a woman's vagina while the pinkie is inserted the anus. Also referred to as a "six pack" (that's how you hold a six pack of beer), "two in the pink, one in the stink" or "two on the clit one in the shit".

SHOOT
To EJACULATE.

SHRIMP
Licking or sucking someone's toes during sex.

SINGLE
A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.

SIXTY-NINE (69)
Oral sex performed by two people on each other simultaneously. Called "69" due to the shape of the two numerals, which suggests the sex act.

SLUT
A derogatory term for a woman who has had many sexual partners.

S&M
See BDSM.

SMEGMA
A white, cheesy substance secreted by the sebaceous glands that collects under the foreskin.

SMURF
Slapping someone in the face with your penis.

SNIFFER'S ROW
The row of seats nearest the stage in a strip club.

SNOWBALL
After a man ejaculates in someone's mouth, passing the semen back and forth between partners.

SNOW BLOW
Performing oral sex on a man with ice cubes in your mouth.

SOCIAL
A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

SOCIAL SWING CLUB
A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.

SODOMY
Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.

SOFTCORE
Sexual pictures, movies, etc. that do not show penetration and usually do not show an erect penis. Opposite of hardcore. Opposite of HARDCORE.

SOFT SWINGERS
Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.

SOFT SWAP
Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP)

SOFT SWINGING
The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see
HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).

SPANISH FLY
A supposed aphrodisiac potion, sometimes put surreptitiously into the drink of a partner to make them sexually interested.

SPERMICIDE
A substance that kills sperm, often applied to a condom or other contraceptive device.

SPOON
When two people lie parallel on their sides facing in the same direction. Usually with a man pressing his crotch against a woman's ass.

SPUNK
SEMEN.

SRS
Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).

STD
Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.

STR or STR8
straight(see STRAIGHT)

STRAIGHT
Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.

STRAP-ON
A DILDO that is worn by someone, attached to a harness, so that it can be thrust into a partner like a penis.

STRIPPER
Someone who exposees their nude or semi-nude body for money.

SUB
SUBMISSIVE.

SUBMISSIVE
Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)

SWAPPING
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP)

SWEDISH CULTURE
Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

SWF
Single White Female

SWINGER
One, as part of a couple, who engages in recreational sex.

SWINGING
Where two or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual relations with a partner or partners other than their own.

SWITCH
Someone who can act either as a dominant or submissive in BDSM play.

SWM
Single White Male

SWING MAGAZINE
A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.

SWINGING
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

SWINGING LIFESTYLE
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

SWINGING MARRIAGE
Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

SWM
Single White Male

T

TAINT
The perineum, the strip of tissue between the genitals and the anus of both men and women

TAN
Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)

TA TA
Humorous term for breasts.

TEA ROOM
A public toilet where gay men often have sex.

TEABAGGING
When a man lowers his testicles down onto someone's mouth. So-called because of the resemblance to lowering a teabag into water

TEASE
To cause arousal in someone or the expectation of sexual activity without following through on that promise.

THREESOME
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)

TICKET
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

TITS
A woman's breasts.

TIT FUCK
To place the penis between a woman's breasts and thrust, as if engaging in intercourse.

TOP
1. The dominant person in BDSM activity.
2. The one who penetrates during anal sex, especially between gay males.

TOYS
Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)

TRANNY
TRANSSEXUAL.

TRANSGENDERED
Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation.

TRANSSEXUAL
Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion

TRANSVESTITE
A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.

TRAVEL
(see CAN TRAVEL)

TRIAD
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

TRIB, TRIBBING
Engaging in tribadism.

TRIBADISM
The lesbian sex practice of rubbing two vaginas together.

TRIOLISM
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)

TUBAL LIGATION
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

TURNED-ON
Sexually excited; aroused.

TWINK
A gay man, specifically one who looks young, has a slight build, and had little body hair.

U

UNCUT
Not CIRCUMCISED.

UNLOAD
To ejaculate.

UPSKIRT
A picture or video, sometimes taken surreptitiously, that shows the view up the skirt or dress of a woman.

UTOPIAN SWINGER
A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

W

WANK
MASTURBATE.

WATERSPORTS
Sex acts involving urine or ENEMAS. See also GOLDEN SHOWER.

WAX
To give a HAND JOB.

WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS
Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

WET
Said of a woman, sexually aroused and producing vaginal lubrication.

WET DREAM
NOCTURNAL EMISSION.

WHORE
Derogatory term for prostitute.

WIFE SWAPPING
Swinging. When a married couple has sex with other people, particularly with other married couples.

WOOD, WOODY
ERECTION.

X

X-RATED
Showing explicit sex acts, especially used to describe pornographic movies.

XXX
X-RATED.

Y

YAOI
Japanese erotic anime (cartoons) that focus on male-on-male sexuality.

YONI
Ancient Indian term for the vagina or a representation of the vagina; appears in the Kama Sutra and often used in reference to TANTRIC SEX. See also LINGAM.

Z

ZOOPHILIA
Sexual interest in animals; BESTIALITY.

ZOOPHILE
One who has sexual interest in animals.